1991. How to speak to a teen


Youngsters like to be treated as ordinary persons. 

At tutoring sessions talk with him as such, not as a very despotic father. In the same mode as you would talk to an adult. At the same tone as adults. 

They are young but not silly. 

Thus you are opening a bridge between youth and maturity for them. / Photo from: www phschool com. Tutoring session of a teacher with a student

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