Holy chastity is more than just sexual continence.
It’s part of the virtue of temperance, which rules our tendencies to the goodness of the person and his relationships with other people.
You can only live chastity with God’s grace, with God’s help. So ask him for it! He’s prone to concede it.
Chastity and purity take you to happiness; what happens is that our concupiscence has been hurt since our first parents' sin, plus our personal guilt and subsequent sins.
Nonetheless chastity is a virtue you can achieve to live, as many spouses and single people do. / Photo from: grownortho com